![]() When you give up those self-limiting beliefs, you’ll be better equipped to reach your greatest potential.Īmy Morin is a psychotherapist and the author of the bestselling book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do. With practice, you can train your brain to think differently. If you’ve labeled yourself too wimpy to step outside of your comfort zone, force yourself to do something that feels a little uncomfortable. If you think you’re not good enough, do something that helps you to feel worthy. Challenge your beliefs. Perform behavioral experiments that test how true your beliefs really are.Acknowledging exceptions to the rule will remind you that your belief isn’t always true. Take note of any times when your beliefs weren’t reinforced. Here are two ways to challenge your beliefs: You can alter your perception and change your life. The good news is, you can change how you think. Just because you think something, doesn’t make it true. Remind yourself that you don’t have to allow those beliefs to restrict your potential. Or perhaps you’ve decided you’re a bad leader. Maybe you’ve declared yourself incompetent. Take a look at the labels you’ve placed on yourself. But optimistic thoughts lead to productive behavior, which increases your chances of a successful outcome. That’s not to say positive thoughts have magical powers. Instead, it might be your beliefs that keep you from performing at your peak.Ĭreating a more positive outlook can lead to better outcomes. When he does succeed at something, he’ll chalk it up to luck.Ĭonsider for a minute that it might not be your lack of talent or lack of skills that are holding you back. But equally as important, we must unlearn that which does not agree with us anymore.Someone who develops the belief that he’s a failure, for example, will view each mistake as proof that he’s not good enough. “ The power of your thoughts lies in the fact that you think they are yours.” – Oshoĭo not be fearful of challenging your own beliefs, it can lead to true transformation and evolution. When you realize that you are not your thoughts, the impact of those thoughts will diminish. Thoughts are constantly flowing, coming and going, always obeying their own laws. If somebody is saying a big claim, don’t be afraid to look like a fool and say, “Hold on, what do you mean by this and by that?” Don’t be afraid to look at first principles. The next thing you need to do is to stop assuming. Maybe they’re saying something that’s true to them personally, but it’s not some universal truth that applies to all people across the board. People say the stupidest things all the time and if you were mentally lazy and adopt what they say wholesale and absorb it, there will be problems. This is a problem because people make mistakes all the time, and everyone has a different experience going through life. Why? In the back of our heads, we filtered that person as someone who experienced many things and as someone who has achieved credibility and authority in our mind so why do the heavy work and be skeptical of what they say? Your thoughts are not your own.īasically, you transfer the time, effort, and attention to detail that you invested in developing that friend or mentor to their claims. Unfortunately, many people are lazy because if somebody we know, who we love and respect says something or make a truth claim, we are more likely to pick up on what they say and assume that it’s true. ![]() Is this true for me? Do I actually believe it? Use your logical reasoning facilities and start to question everything you hear or think. Somebody might say something is right or true, but filter that information through your experience. ![]() I’m not a religious person, but this notion is even mentioned in the bible: “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways, my ways.” – Isaiah 55:8ĭon’t think things have face value. This doesn’t mean that you have to turn into some jerk or asshole but it means that you have to be more skeptical. ![]() In recent years, some psychotherapists have revived an old idea about thoughts, treating them as. But cognitive behavioral therapy was not the end of the shift away from thoughts as solid aspects of ourselves. How do you fight back against your toxic beliefs? It all boils down to being more critical. Sometimes thoughts that arose in your mind during the day were just thoughts, not a defining aspect of your ultimate essence. They make up the lenses that filter your reality. You choose your beliefs and these are the foundation of your reality. We’re trapped in a prison of weak flesh and we would love to have somebody or a situation to blame. I know that that’s an uncomfortable thing to hear because we’re human beings. There’s nobody threatening to kill you if you don’t believe you are not good enough, incapable, and not up to the job. There’s nobody sitting behind you with a gun pointed to your head telling you to believe certain things. Beliefs are decisions, and we choose our own beliefs.
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